The further my wife and I get into the DD life style, we find things that do and don't work for us. So far its just little things for the most part, but one of the bigger things that's had both of us thinking is exactly how far we want to take it.
On some blogs, the wife seems to leave the husband in full control of nearly every aspect of their life. We don't have a problem with that, it's just not what we want. I don't think either of us want me in complete control. We've adopted many other aspects that have already helped out on our marriage. Mainly the rules posted in a previous post. While I hold her responsible to these rules, I find that I've benefited from them too.
As she adapts her behavior to follow the rules, for example our no swearing policy, I find I've drastically cut down on my swearing too. As her attitude has become more polite and respectful (not just towards me, but also in general) I find that my attitude has started to follow suit. I think this fact alone is what's making us both easier to communicate with. I like it to be honest. I think we've both been happier since we've started.
Anyways, feel free to check out my wife's blog too.
My New Life
Friday, July 29, 2011
Thursday, July 28, 2011
Learning Submission
Being submissive for me is not a 100% activity. There are parts of me that cannot be fully submissive. If there were no children involved in our lives it would be easier to be fully submissive. That is not to say I would trade our children for anything in the world. Part of me wishes that I could be more submissive for him. Though, I am not sure how submissive he would like me to be. We are still figuring out the things we would like to add to our lives. Even in the short time we have started implementing rules and me being more submissive, our relationship has already changed. Communication between us is getting better. The bond between us is getting stronger. I am hoping that this is the direction our relationship continues in. He means the world to me and I want nothing more than to make him happy. Our relationship and marriage is still young and 20 years from now I want us to have a relationship that is strong and our children admire and want to have.
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Thursday, July 21, 2011
A New Way of Thinking and a Set of Rules
My husband and I came across "Domestic Discipline" while researching transitioning our relationship into a more dominant/submissive relationship. Right now we are more or less "testing the waters" to see what does and does not fit into our lifestyle. This, of course, can be a challenge considering it can reform parts of your marriage. There are a lot of decisions to be made. What is the dominant person setting as rules and punishment? What is the submissive (in this case, myself) willing to accept as rules and punishment? Speaking for the submissive person, it revamps a lot of your ways of thinking.
Research seems to be the best tool for us right now. We read some and then when we have time together we discuss what we have read and come up with our own things to set into our lifestyle. After much research we have agreed to a set of rules. We will change, delete, add as we decide or as he sees fit as he has final say. They have been put into place as of today and are as follows:
1. No spending from the checking account of any kind without prior discussion or permission.
2. You must send a picture as requested, as soon as requested.
3. Punishments must be completed as discussed prior to it's start.
4. Make the bed before leaving the house for the day.
5. Make sure P's work clothes are laid out for him every night before bed.
6. Keep a semi-daily journal (i.e. Blog) (at least 3 times per week)
7. P has the final say and authority on any and all subjects we cannot agree on (non-family related)
8. Do not argue or talk back.
9. Make sure not to have to be told twice to do something or not do something.
10. Make sure to not have to be reminded about any assigned tasks.
11. Do what I'm told, when I'm told, without question or argument.
12. No cursing under any circumstances.
13. Knee length nightgowns are to be worn to bed.
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Research seems to be the best tool for us right now. We read some and then when we have time together we discuss what we have read and come up with our own things to set into our lifestyle. After much research we have agreed to a set of rules. We will change, delete, add as we decide or as he sees fit as he has final say. They have been put into place as of today and are as follows:
1. No spending from the checking account of any kind without prior discussion or permission.
2. You must send a picture as requested, as soon as requested.
3. Punishments must be completed as discussed prior to it's start.
4. Make the bed before leaving the house for the day.
5. Make sure P's work clothes are laid out for him every night before bed.
6. Keep a semi-daily journal (i.e. Blog) (at least 3 times per week)
7. P has the final say and authority on any and all subjects we cannot agree on (non-family related)
8. Do not argue or talk back.
9. Make sure not to have to be told twice to do something or not do something.
10. Make sure to not have to be reminded about any assigned tasks.
11. Do what I'm told, when I'm told, without question or argument.
12. No cursing under any circumstances.
13. Knee length nightgowns are to be worn to bed.
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A new beginning...
So my wife and I ( I shall call her M and her blog is long the side..) have recently discovered Domestic Discipline. I mean really recently. This blog, and hers, will be written documentation of our journey. This first post is kinda short...
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Wednesday, July 20, 2011
A new beginning...or My new life.
We choose not to disclose our real names. You can call me M and my husband, P. We have chosen to start living a domestic discipline relationship. My husband has decided that this will be our documentation of our journey into DD and other aspects of our life that we choose to share. Other things we enjoy are diapers, spanking and sex in general.
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